A letter to my 15 year old self

Do you ever think back to the time you were a teenager? Or even in your 20s? Or is this something you rather want to forget about? Or do you want to go back?

For a long time I tried to forget many things from my teenage time. However especially now that I have kids and that my oldest is turning 10 this year, I think back sometimes and wonder why being a teenager is so difficult. Why was I so insecure. Why did I behave the way I did? And as a mother I wish I can save my kids some of the mistakes I made and some of the feelings I had. That’s why I wrote a letter to my own 15 year old self. May be someone can relate, may be my kids will read this one day and even if only one sentence helps them to navigate their life and become stronger, confident and resilient. That’s what this post is for. Enjoy and comment, I would love to hear your thoughts!

A letter to my 15 year old self | Emilia Ohrtmann

Dear young Emilia,

I am writing this letter to you, 25 years into the future. As I am sitting here and still remember very clearly what it was like as a teenager. I wish I could save you some of the worries that you are having and will have. I wish I could make this time easier and more enjoyable.

So with this letter I would like to tell you that you don’t need to worry, whatever you do now, you will grow up to be a confident, successful and happy woman.

For now just enjoy being young. Don’t try to imagine the future. You will have a great future. Take the time to be young and experience this time. It will fly by and will never come back.

Life later on will be a lot of work, at 15 there is just fun. Take the time to experience everything you want and you can now. Try out new things.  

Choose the things you are doing because you want to do them. Not because others tell you to do them. Now is the time. Later on there are so many things you have to do. If you want to do voluntary work now, go do it, why not. You are never too young. In a few years time you will want to travel and do good and help the world but you won’t do it because there never seem to be the right time. There always seem other things to do that are more urgent. Life will still be long, there will still be enough time to work and study. Just do it, do what you want to do. If it costs you a year of school or university, you will start working a year later, it does not matter. You are still so young and have so much time ahead of you.  

Try and really notice all the little and wonderful things in life. See all the beauty there is in life. Be grateful to just be alive and be given this gift.  

Stop doubting yourself and your abilities so much. You are able of everything you set out to do. You are intelligent and able to learn anything.

Stop worrying about your body and your looks, you are very pretty. You are strong. And in addition you are healthy.

Actually you already are confident and deep down you know that you are on the sunny side of life.

So stand up straight and be proud of who you are.

Oh, and just to assure you, you will meet the man and love of your life, he will also be your best friend and always support you and be on your side.

You won’t believe this now but your dream will come true and you will be a mama of four beautiful and healthy children!!

You are resilient and that will show. You will be happy with your chosen path and continue to grow and become stronger.

Don’t listen to other people, listen to your heart, listen to your gut. You know what is best for you.

You are young and you have all the time in the world. Be adventurous and do things that are not ‘allowed’.

Still continue to listen to your instincts, if something doesn’t feel right, turn around and run away.

School and university is important but all the life lessons you will learn along the way are what will make you stronger and wiser. You will go and study the wrong subject and you should have listened to your gut and gone with something creative. However there was a reason for that, you met amazing people and learned and experienced a lot during those years.

You don’t need to start working immediately, go and travel the world. Do some good. You know you want to. You will go and do all that but not enough. Take the time when you are young, you don’t need much money. You will meet so many nice people along your travels you won’t be alone.

In general, don’t be scared to be alone sometimes.

Listen properly to your mom and what she says. She always means well and has a lot of wisdom that you don’t have yet. She knows so many things you don’t know yet, but you will learn. If you listen now many things will come easier to you. She will tell you so many times that everything will be alright, she knows you will find true love, she knows you will be truly happy in life - listen to her.

Be content with the moment. You are exactly where you need to be right now. The life you are admiring and aspiring will come to you.

Stop worrying what people think of you. You are perfect just the way you are.

And lastly, I know it’s hard but trust me: try and be more outgoing, you know you want to. I know it’s not easy but you will love it. It’s the actual you.

Let go of things and let go of people if need be. Don’t let outside events or people drag you down.

Make other people happy, it will make you happy. Smile more and laugh more.

In love your grown up self xx